In Bed with Jocasta
For Debra
Contents
Cover
Introduction
One
The Joy of Passing Wind
Mauled
The Mouse Trap
My Mother Killed My Stove
Yes, We’re Australian
Rat-bagged
About-to-Expire Eggs
Two
Vice Squad
Travel Sickness
Examine This
Home Coming
Rules of Engagement
The Der-Title
Being 7
Girls’ Jeans
Three
The Girl Magnet
Simon Says
More Waist, Less Speed
The Fairyland Frontline
Old-Man Emu
Holiday Laws
Back to Work
Four
Cold Comfort
Killers in the Kitchen
The Fall Guy
Backyard Cricket
Stark Staring
The Scapie
Rules of Life
Five
Interior Monologue
WebbyNettyStuff
Free for All
Sold Short
Dirt File
The Baby Club
The Too-Hard Basket
Six
Competitive Whingeing
The Straights Mardi Gras
Charm Offensive
The Milk-Crate Couch
Hard Yards
Letterbug
Déjà View
Seven
Daddy Longer Legs
We Cook, You Praise
Fields of Dreams
Blackballed
The Kitchen Blues
Party Animal
Clash of Wobblies
Eight
Clean bowled
Pies de Resistance
The Politically Correct Jokebook
Inviting Trouble
Griswold’s Christmas
The Christmas Cheer
In Bed with Jocasta
About the author
Also by Richard Glover
Acknowledgments
Copyright
About the Publisher
Introduction
I don’t know whether to describe what follows as a comedy book, or just the world’s weirdest love story. The main character is my partner who, as you will read, is formidable.
This book is also about turning forty, flirting, cooking, and being a Girl Magnet.
In order to avoid legal action, the wife character is called Jocasta. I have spent many years trying to convince the newspaper-reading public of her unfair ways and fierce nature.
Alas, she grows more popular with her every outrage.
Women, I’ve been told, have taken to quoting her behaviour, with some suggesting she is some sort of gogirl role model.
Hopefully, with the length afforded by a book, I can finally white-ant this emerging fan base, and fully catalogue her crimes.
Not that I don’t enjoy being with her. Especially in bed with her.
I first met Jocasta when I was twenty-one. I was pimply and unattractive, and she did things in bed that no other woman was willing to do.
For instance: staying in the bed when I hopped into it. It certainly set her apart from the others.
I hope you enjoy our adventures in the years since. Particularly, any mention of our two children.
They have negotiated a deal which pays them $1 for every mention. The least you could do is laugh. As for Jocasta, she has eschewed any payment, but simply wishes it noted: the real Debra is much, much nicer than the fictional Jocasta.
Although — natch — just as sexy.
So, if you have a true love, and a weird life that looks normal — but only to passing outsiders — you might enjoy this book.
It may be the world’s strangest love story or things just as weird might be happening in your household right now.
Frankly, I suspect it.
1
‘On what possible grounds,’ says Jocasta
as the credits roll, ‘did you think it would
be pornographic?’
I go to bed defeated. I am fed up with
Hollywood. Disenchanted with the Finns.
And let down by the Australian
Censorship Board.
The Joy of Passing Wind
It’s Finnish,’ says Jocasta. ‘Wasn’t that some sort of tip-off?’
I’m standing in the living room, wondering what the Finns ever did to Jocasta. Why this anger? Why this emotion?
‘Plus,’ she says, hitting the rewind button, ‘it’s the fourth time in a row. Four times i let you go to the video store, and four times the result is an absolute stinker.’
I feel she’s being a bit unfair on Drifting Clouds, the Finnish movie we’ve just finished watching. For a start, she insists on calling it ‘Passing Wind’.
‘Look on the box of Passing Wind,’ says Jocasta, ‘and you can see all the warning signs. “Sumptuously photographed” — that means there’s no plot. And “deadpan humour” — that means it’s a festival for misery-gutses.’
I try to remember what made me reach for it at the video store. The sticker claiming some vague connection with the Cannes Film Festival? The rave review from the Helsinki Sanamat? The promise that the movie ‘will leave you delighted and happy’?
(‘That,’ says Jocasta, ‘is the mere relief at its being over.’)
There are always five or six of us at the video store, walking up and down, staring at the new releases. We may look like lost souls, condemned to wander and pause and wander again, but really we’re full of hope.
This time we’re going to choose something wonderful — an undiscovered gem, a real surprise. We’ll take it home like an offering and, at the end of the movie, our partners will lean over with a grateful kiss. ‘You’ve done it again,’ they’ll say, ‘that was just wonderful.’
But it never quite works out like that.
Every week, at the end of the film, Jocasta and I have the discussion. ‘on what possible grounds,’ she asks, ‘did you think it would be good?’
‘Well, what about this review?’ I say, pointing to the word ‘hilarious’ in big print.
Says Jocasta, pointing to the small print: ‘Do you generally base your cultural decisions on those of Chattanooga Radio KWYZ?’
‘Or what about this?’ I say gamely. ‘The Scunthorpe Gazette said it was “thought-provoking”.’
‘Yeah,’ says Jocasta, ‘provoking the thought: “Why do I ever let my dickhead husband choose the video?”.’
The next week I’m back there, wandering the aisles. Never again, I mumble to myself, will I trust Chattanooga Radio KWYZ. SO all those videos are off my list. Plus movies recommended by the Scunthorpe Gazette. Plus anything vaguely Finnish.
This time, I think, I’ll base it on track record. This film says it’s got the same Best Boy as The Big Chill; and this one is from the caterer that brought us Romeo and Juliet. i make my selection. i take it home. And, afterwards, we have the discussion.
‘On what possible grounds,’ says Jocasta, ‘did you think it would be good?’
I read from the box: ‘it’s from the actor that brought us Dirty Dancing.’
‘And,’ says Jocasta, completing my sentence, ‘hasn’t made a good film since.’
She reaches for the video and slips it back into the box. ‘There are rules for these things. For a start, you should always ignore any film which combines three famous actors with a title you’ve never heard of. With a cast like that, there’s got to be a reason it sank without trace. Also, when they say “beautifully acted and directed” it’s because they fo
rgot to include a plot. And when the box mentions the special effects, or the soundtrack or the stunts, it means it has nothing else going for it. OK?’
‘OK,’ I affirm.
I return to the shop. I wander the aisles. Finnish films: out. Anything recommended by an American radio station: out. Ditto: Patrick Swayze. Finally, I’ve got it. My skin prickles with delight. If I’m unable to pick a film that’s got some quality to it, at least I could get something rude.
Forget the reviews. Forget the stars. Forget Finland. This time my choice will be entirely based on the censorship rating.
This one has a very provocative cover, but I notice the Australian Censorship Board was utterly unimpressed. ‘Low Level sex scenes,’ it says, its disappointment obvious. Another film on offer can only manage occasional obscene Language.
Finally I make my choice. High Level Sex Scenes. Drug Use. Really Bad Language. This film has got it all. I take it home.
Late that night, giggling with expectation, we begin watching, Jocasta nuzzling closer to me, her finger tracing a lazy pattern on my chest.
‘On what possible grounds,’ says Jocasta ninety minutes later, as the credits roll, ‘did you think it would be pornographic?’
I go to bed defeated. I am disappointed with Chattanooga radio KWYZ. Fed up with Hollywood. Disenchanted with the Finns. And let down by the Australian Censorship Board. All in all, Passing Wind now doesn’t seem so bad.
‘Maybe I pre-judged it,’ says Jocasta. ‘Shall we get it out again?’
Mauled
All the jobs, done in one day. We’ll knock off the lot,’ says Jocasta as we drive towards the local Mega Mall, the kids already fighting over who gets to hold the shopping list. It’s Saturday morning, and we’re going on a journey, as many people have before us. For instance: Dante.
9.00 We’re in Ikea, and already The Space Cadet is swinging on a hat stand named Klug. All the products have insistently swedish names. The couch is called Toj, the desk is Brok and the lamp is Blag — names that sound like members of ABBA. Hopefully, I’ll soon have my bum in a Bjorn, and my feet on a collapsible Frida.
9.20 We need a lamp for the lounge, and compare the five on offer — the Tovik, Skimpa, Bodge, Blag and Barf. These are not the sweet sounds of home-making. These are the sounds of gastro-intestinal distress. Finally, Jocasta asks the sales assistant if she can have a Barf. But the Barfs are all sold out.
9.30 I prise The Space Cadet off a tent called Pog, and chase him and Batboy out of the store. Jocasta and I discuss the way all our society’s virtues have been turned into product names. Praise is a margarine, Kindness is a soap, Courage a lipstick. And now, just like Nelson Mandela, we must begin our long walk to Freedom.
9.40 We stumble into Freedom Furniture. It’s a store with no Swedish connection, yet the names still sound like Terge and Flurg. Is this the cultural cringe? Why not a couch called Barry, an umbrella stand named Tony, or, for that matter, a poof named Adrian? We proceed to the lighting section. While Freedom may light the path ahead (especially in its outdoors section), it cannot tastefully light our lounge.
9.50 Depression is setting in. In quick succession, we visit Suzie’s World of Lights, Mr Lighting, and The Light Master. All have well-developed ideas of style and restraint: ideas derived from those of Mr Elvis Presley, Las Vegas, circa 1969.
10.10 ‘We’ll give up on the lamp,’ says Jocasta grumpily, and so we move onto Item Two on the list: the birthday presents for the boy and girl in The Space Cadet’s class.
10.30 Visit Toys U Buy, Mr Toys, and World of Crap. Large quantities of extruded plastic tosh have been packaged into brightly coloured boxes, helpfully coded as to gender. Everything in the store, however small, appears to cost $29.95. Except for the stuff that costs $149.95. Purchase 2 kilos of blue crap, and 2.5 kilos of pink crap. Load into car.
10.40 Item Three is a chest of drawers for The Space Cadet. Naturally, we head straight for Cheap and Nasty World (‘the store where the repayments always last longer than the product’). Everyone here is exactly our age, with exactly two kids and exactly no money. We’re all hoping that by the time this stuff falls apart, we’ll be able to afford better — although, looking at the products and at the customers, this seems unlikely. We buy 35 kilos of flat-pack chipboard, which has been vaguely glued together into the shape of drawers.
11.29 We leave Cheap and Nasty World (‘where we’re confident to stand on our reputation — but never our chairs’) and get caught in a surge of people. It’s a river of parents and hungry children, all marching towards Mr Hamburger World. We end up at the counter, and place our orders. somehow, it reminds me of Cheap and Nasty World and Toys 4 Profit. The food is pre-digested, extruded, portion-controlled. It’s soft and easy to chew, almost as if someone has already digested it. That thought has implications, and I fight them off.
12.00 The kids are depressed, and so are we. somehow Batboy talks us into a visit to Time-Waste-Zone, the game arcade. Apparently, if you spend $20, you may very well win a piece of plastic crap. Batboy and I have a go on the skiing machine, which is — in its way — quite amazing. There’s a video screen, and skis and stocks. For $2, it is a little bit like skiing.
Just like The Space Cadet’s furniture is a little bit like furniture.
And the plastic crap is a little like a real toy.
And the hamburger is a little like real food.
And the lights are a little like something attractive.
Which brings us back to Dante. Like him, we’re now ready to go home. Travelling back, through all seven circles of the modern world.
The Mouse Trap
The Space Cadet wants a pet. He suggests a large dog, and is met with fierce opposition. He moderates to a cat, and does no better.
‘A guinea pig?’ he asks quietly a week later, cutting the cloth of his dreams into ever-smaller pieces. Unbelievably, his mean-hearted father still says no. The Space Cadet turns sadly, his shoulders fallen, and limps back into his bedroom.
At this rate, he’ll be asking for a pet flea within a month, and still be getting knock-backs. And so I say it, mumbling towards his departing back: ‘Maybe a mouse.’
The Space Cadet embraces the idea with an enthusiasm bordering on hysteria. ‘A mouse would be fantastic,’ he says. ‘I’ve always wanted a mouse. Always.’
I tell him that I’m not going to give in straight away. He must prove he really wants a mouse. On the spot I come up with an excellent parenting idea: he can have the mouse if he remembers to ask again, once a week for, say, three weeks.
But The Space Cadet doesn’t have a great grip on the calendar. He’s so nervous about missing the deadline, he decides to take precautions, and asks me about the mouse every five minutes, every day, for ten straight days.
Finally I crack. We drive to the shop, and The space Cadet is shaking in his seat with the excitement of it all. His first pet.
‘Which floor of Ashfield Mall do you reckon the pet shop’ll be on?’ Jocasta asks, and The Space Cadet answers her: ‘It’ll be on the ground floor.’
We ask him how he knows. says The space Cadet, jiggling as he talks: ‘Well, they’d put it on the ground floor because the children really want the pets. And if it’s on the ground floor they can go in and get the pets really quickly.’
We arrive at the mall and walk into the pet shop, which is on the ground floor. We find this allows us to get separated from our money really quickly.
The space Cadet selects a mouse, and then a mouse cage. The mouse costs $2. The cage, which is on special, costs $49.95. It is made of brightly coloured plastic, and features a sort of Centrepoint Tower rising up from its top, up which the mouse can climb.
When we get home, The space Cadet announces that the mouse is called Fluffy, and we all sit around the kitchen table watching him as he runs on his wheel.
‘Fluffy is very fast,’ says The space Cadet, and we all agree. We’ve chanced upon an exceptional mouse. Perhaps the fastest, most athletic mouse
ever. We all decide we’re very proud of him.
Steve, from over the road, wanders in and watches Fluffy on his treadmill, going ever round and round and round, and becomes increasingly depressed. ‘It’s like a metaphor,’ he says grimly before wandering out into the back garden and staring into the distance.
His partner, Helen, says she doesn’t like the mouse, but the mouse house, with its neon-bright plastic tower, and ‘Lazy Vue’ viewing platform, would make the basis of an excellent building application to council, and would we mind if she took a few measurements?
The Space Cadet, though, just wants to get Fluffy out, and have him crawl up his arm, holding his tail as demonstrated by the lady in the shop. We do this successfully. Three times. But not the fourth.
Fluffy escapes. We’ve had him precisely five hours, and are now owners of a perfectly useless $49.95 plastic mouse cage, with Lazy Vue platform and neon-bright tower.
Batboy says that since a $2 mouse lives two years; maybe next time we could get a $4 mouse, which would live four years.
The Space Cadet is looking glum. ‘We don’t even know when his birthday is,’ he says, as if this makes the loss all the more hurtful.
Jocasta is even more upset. ‘I’d already bonded to Fluffy,’ she says miserably.
I spot some movement. Fluffy is under the couch. The last time we had a mouse under the couch my intentions were rather more deadly. This time, it’s different. With four planks of wood we construct a sort of stockyard around the couch, and consider how to lift out the furniture.
I summon various helpers, and soon we have five adults, arguing over the capture options.
‘Don’t hurt him,’ says The Space Cadet.
‘Yeah,’ says Steve, who’s stalked back inside from the garden, ‘we should subdue him first with capsicum spray.’
In the end we lift out the couch, work in the barriers, and successfully return Fluffy to his owner. He seems happy enough to be crawling over The Space Cadet, who, this time, maintains a somewhat better grip on his tail.